Why doesn't he understand?

You are a young, educated woman! Don't let anyone make you feel like this. You want an apartment? Go get one! You do not need that boy dragging you down. How old is he? and he still lives at home? Go get you own place and tell him that you guys can still be together, but when he gets over his mama's boy attitude, then he can move in with you. You need to do what makes you happy. He is making himself happy, he has his place how he wants it. So go do the same for yourself. You moved so far just to be with him, now it is his turn to uproot himself for you. So go grab a real estate guide and go apartment shopping!!!!